I have a backpack which is great, it's well designed and because of this, works really well and is a pleasure to use. It's blue, big and it carries my laptop, books and accessories. Lets call it Big Blue for now - it's a wonderful part of my gear. I also have a small red one(say, little red), specifically for running - it doesn't carry as much as Big Blue but it carries just enough for a run day. On days that I don't run, I use big blue, on run days, it's little red on run days. They are really great. They serve good purposes and deliver well on them.
While that's how I feel about these two inanimate objects in my possession, I know, curiously, that people feel this way about other people. In the same way I admire the functionality provided by Big Blue and Little Red, I can't relate how people might distill this admiration in me towards them. People seem to be about style, money and drama. They are lazy, annoying and have their own issues that prevent them from being consistent, simple and reliable. They lack admiration, loyalty, and trust.
There is nothing wrong with this. It makes us humans unique I suppose, it mixes the characters and distributes the gene pool.
While an inanimate object cannot express laziness, loyalty or trust, their precise unwavering inability to fail in these respects makes one able to reliably account for it. And that's useful. That's consistent, the lack of change is loyal, it's trustworthy and it's reliable.
I can appreciate it, good design, good usability and user experience.
All this I distill in an well designed objects that I've chosen out of a highly selective and personal process, picking the functionality that will be the most beneficial to me. They don't have feeling - if they break or get destroyed, no one gets hurt.
Sure, I loose a well designed piece of kit, but it's just material. You cannot do this with people, people can get hurt, more importantly you can be responsible.
People are great because they are unique, come in different styles, are unpredictable and spontaneous. All things that are less like Big Blue or little red but with so many choices out there that would not make the cut in a selective process - it just goes to show how wonderful perhaps a person is who does. It's almost unlikely, which makes me think that's why the relationships today are not this, they are compromises because finding a perfect unwaveringly designed person is unlikely. They are not Big Blues or little reds, they are middle sized bluish-greens and tiny pinks.
Maybe that's the difference. NObjects can be perfect but they cannot feel or love or care. People are hopelessly inconsistent, variable, imperfect and live to love and feel and finding one for you is special because of all their inherent flaws.
Big blue and little red are less annoying though.