I was sitting in a crowd, drinking a bland milkshake in the sun while on the Big screen, the England and Costa Rica football match was being played. It was busy, suits, shirts, girls, sunglasses, BBQs and lots of city chatter. She, wearing her large round black sunglasses, turned to me and said, the reason why he doesn't have a ring that finger was because he was incapable of marriage. Also because he had a bad attitude, was arrogant and generally an unfavourable person. I considered it. And that made me wonder about him as I sympathised with his evaluation by her and wondered how much of me would eventually be affected by her evaluations of me. Why does a man have to be capable? Why must a man get married? Why is it seen as an achievement? It's not, especially if it's not a goal. Why is so much value put on marriage? Then I realised, when it's not your goal, and everyone else's - then they'll define your lack of achieving their goals in any which way they want. Perhaps he doesn't want to get married whether he's a pain generally or not. Sometimes you got to stop, give yourself a mental slap and get out of the haze that society has implanted in your psyche and think for yourself - your value system is different to everyone else's.