It's interesting how much focus is centred around traits of men that make them more suitable for relationships, marriage, children, family life etc. but less is dedicated to the traits of woman, especially from a mans perspective.

Funny thing is, I've not ever really thought about it that way before. I'm a big investor in looking after yourself. Also trying it out first, being proactive not reactive. I'm not one for moaning or crying or being down because life is unfair. That said, I think that there are a large number of woman that aren't that way. I wonder if it's a man trait to be that way. I hope not because a woman's ability to live this way I think is critical to survival. For example if the man died, the woman should function without the man. Then again, perhaps the woman just finds another man. In which case it really is the woman finding the man, not the man finding the woman. This might coincide with the norm I originally described. Men don't need woman to function. Woman need men to function, especially true if you consider procreation an essential woman feature. It's a feature fundamental to the human race so to speak as to living because the body is adapted to change dramatically to aid this function.

So, it might seem that woman have more riding on men to help realise this feature than man does nearly making it possible. Couple this feature with a woman's instinct to nurture children and well, men seem less and less critical to the human race than woman. Certainly because they don't feature as prominently as woman do in terms of aiding the human race.

Are things more equal in terms of the contribution to the human race than the one sided picture this far painted? Might men's ability to protect yield as much weight as childbearing? Perhaps it does indeed. If all being equal, what incentive does the man have to conceive and protect? Not much, so little perhaps that it's in a woman's advantage to find a man that does indeed wish to participate this way in a woman's circle of life.

Then indeed its a woman that finds the man, not the other way around. Or at least the other way around makes less sense for the human race. This is to say perhaps that all men should have at the very least conceive and protect when it comes to a woman choosing a man. Provided all men have this instinct, all men are up for and suitable for this role.

By default men a bigger and stronger so this comes naturally. Men have an ambition to mate. This too is natural. Which brings us logically to the conclusion that men provide to woman and woman provide to men. While this is true and universally accepted, it doesn't say that a particular man is willing to serve one or both of his purposes, obviously making him unfit for purpose from a woman's point of view. Same goes for woman but less so because a woman can't decide as easily perhaps as a man can to ignore their features. I man is more likely to be childless, out of desire not to have children than a woman. In this regard, even though choice is entirely ones own, a woman's features makes that choice so much more difficult than a mans.More reason for a woman to find a man that want children.

I'd almost go so far as to say woman need children and men don't.

So back on track now, it's probably not important for a man to evaluate a woman's traits and it is for a woman to evaluate a mans traits. Which is a good thing because I've never done that. Except for admiring a woman's obvious beauty, but that alone I think cannot be enough to make a man want to have children or protect. Surely a woman has to provide something else, something more fundamental to man, not children, not beauty, not a harmless woman to protect...surely something more(or does a man possess the need quenched by something woman dont provide?). Something fundamental to a man, beyond that woman want from a man to provide. What that is I don't know but I'd hazard a guess that it's to do with purpose.

Perhaps a man furfilling a woman's purpose is a mans purpose. That's why men seem to be one up on woman due to the lack of obvious purpose such as body changing, menstrual cycles etc...because the last piece of the puzzle is a mans desire to furfill a woman's purpose. Perhaps not.