So this weekend was a wedding in Dorset. It between(a wedding is between two people?) my cousin and his now wife. I went down and it took 3 hours to get there...Holy Moses! Everything was good/fine/normal which I imagine is everything anyone ever wants. My house turned into a Guest house and base for my guests and that was fine. I'm no host, I have the essentials in my house and at times not even those are essential. That's bachelor life for you.
Someone once told me that I was a bear, who has yet to grow into his own paws. Roughly translated that means that I'm not really used to myself, or see myself as a bear, if I was one. Obviously. And this is the journey I make each day in my life;matching what is on the outside with what is missing on the inside. Each decision I make slowly carves away at the solid block inside me and shows what is really there.
Take for example me in the last couple of years. I've been looking and finding at time, and not finding at times, the tools I need to work this block inside me. One thing that I've learned is to be reasonable. Reasonability makes you determine what is OK, feasible and more importantly fair to your beliefs. When you can be reasonable, I think as a person you can do things in moderation and can keep a balance and making sure you get what you want. Because realising what you want is realising what you will carve out of your block. Wanting it and ensuring you and everything around you can benefit and if not benefit then be not affected by it. Small decisions that previously irrespective on which way you went would not be definitive, where each way seems plausible and ok and left you all twisted inside now are transformed into directed ideas and the way to go is obvious but it is only so because you've wrapped your decision in Reasonability which beautifully warrants your underlying thoughts and feelings. Because sometimes you feel a certain way but can't convince yourself that a decision is right because you don't know if it reflects really how you feel or you do but it does something else which equally you are ok with but might have added benefits. Point being is when you're reasonable, you can weigh everything in a scale, and pick off the bits that are too heavy.
I think it's a function much of confidence to find out what you want, what more important to you and then weigh everything out and be ok(because its reasonable) with what you pick off. Sure, it's not just this but say understanding yourself - understanding that you want to make yourself get this or that from the world. That takes time to figure that out. That takes life.
This Weekend I invested in what I thought was reasonable, and the thing about Reasonability is that most times people can understand it, as it clear that if it's too heavy, one needs to pick things off. They would go through it too. other times it's only reasonable to you...I won't say much about this.
That's all I have to say about this and I don't feel like talking about anything else...or it's still percolating up in there.
Someone once told me that I was a bear, who has yet to grow into his own paws. Roughly translated that means that I'm not really used to myself, or see myself as a bear, if I was one. Obviously. And this is the journey I make each day in my life;matching what is on the outside with what is missing on the inside. Each decision I make slowly carves away at the solid block inside me and shows what is really there.
Take for example me in the last couple of years. I've been looking and finding at time, and not finding at times, the tools I need to work this block inside me. One thing that I've learned is to be reasonable. Reasonability makes you determine what is OK, feasible and more importantly fair to your beliefs. When you can be reasonable, I think as a person you can do things in moderation and can keep a balance and making sure you get what you want. Because realising what you want is realising what you will carve out of your block. Wanting it and ensuring you and everything around you can benefit and if not benefit then be not affected by it. Small decisions that previously irrespective on which way you went would not be definitive, where each way seems plausible and ok and left you all twisted inside now are transformed into directed ideas and the way to go is obvious but it is only so because you've wrapped your decision in Reasonability which beautifully warrants your underlying thoughts and feelings. Because sometimes you feel a certain way but can't convince yourself that a decision is right because you don't know if it reflects really how you feel or you do but it does something else which equally you are ok with but might have added benefits. Point being is when you're reasonable, you can weigh everything in a scale, and pick off the bits that are too heavy.
I think it's a function much of confidence to find out what you want, what more important to you and then weigh everything out and be ok(because its reasonable) with what you pick off. Sure, it's not just this but say understanding yourself - understanding that you want to make yourself get this or that from the world. That takes time to figure that out. That takes life.
This Weekend I invested in what I thought was reasonable, and the thing about Reasonability is that most times people can understand it, as it clear that if it's too heavy, one needs to pick things off. They would go through it too. other times it's only reasonable to you...I won't say much about this.
That's all I have to say about this and I don't feel like talking about anything else...or it's still percolating up in there.