It's amazing how much a little reflection and consideration can do for you when dealing with tricky situations, especially where people are frustrated, act impulsively and rather more liberal than perhaps they would be otherwise.
Today I had a rather interesting conversation about blatant problems I had introduced into our development process. It's a great insight to be aware of ones reaction : the immediate sensation, the almost instinctive response, the imediate reasoning and logic one evaluates and mechanisms and strategies used to deal with such things.
I tend to be highly emotionally responsive - often feeling the impact of a situation more than say evaluating the conditions of the situation. I know this and I like to think of it as a disadvantage and an advantage at times. I'm quite open to embracing how my instincts interpret a situation as I do know the need overriding such instincts with reason over above perhaps obtuse emotional reactions.
That said, I find that the more I suppress my instinctive reaction the more balanced I feel and generally more balanced and evaluated my reactions are.
I don't tend to ignore information that's I receive, things that at times are unreasonable, things that shouldn't be taken to heart, I assign emotional importance to.
Today I had to learn to ignore things like this. Learn to be 'thicker skinned' and after consciously not assigning an emotional significance to such things, I realised I was not as 'live' I'd normally become. I've always felt that everything that people say, they've thought about and nothing that they say is a mistake or is less important than the other stuff they say. Truth of the matter is, and im figuring this out, is some of it is, in fact most of it can be. The key is not to impulsively respond in the same way that people react when they speak. Because it's basically two ways of short term reflection of the issues at hand without much opportunity to evaluate the significance and impact of ones response.
People don't mean completely, accurately or utterly what they say at times. I've learnt this today. But I feel they should.
So today has been an exercise in composure, evaluation and delivery.
Its been a lesson in humility also, but another observation is that my persona encourages the perception that my quietness is a weakness. It's more misconceptuon I think because it's more a skill. It's an unusual problem to have I think but then again that's what I might want to believe...
Anyway, I think a good dinner is in order...not like my lunch(pictured)
Today I had a rather interesting conversation about blatant problems I had introduced into our development process. It's a great insight to be aware of ones reaction : the immediate sensation, the almost instinctive response, the imediate reasoning and logic one evaluates and mechanisms and strategies used to deal with such things.
I tend to be highly emotionally responsive - often feeling the impact of a situation more than say evaluating the conditions of the situation. I know this and I like to think of it as a disadvantage and an advantage at times. I'm quite open to embracing how my instincts interpret a situation as I do know the need overriding such instincts with reason over above perhaps obtuse emotional reactions.
That said, I find that the more I suppress my instinctive reaction the more balanced I feel and generally more balanced and evaluated my reactions are.
I don't tend to ignore information that's I receive, things that at times are unreasonable, things that shouldn't be taken to heart, I assign emotional importance to.
Today I had to learn to ignore things like this. Learn to be 'thicker skinned' and after consciously not assigning an emotional significance to such things, I realised I was not as 'live' I'd normally become. I've always felt that everything that people say, they've thought about and nothing that they say is a mistake or is less important than the other stuff they say. Truth of the matter is, and im figuring this out, is some of it is, in fact most of it can be. The key is not to impulsively respond in the same way that people react when they speak. Because it's basically two ways of short term reflection of the issues at hand without much opportunity to evaluate the significance and impact of ones response.
People don't mean completely, accurately or utterly what they say at times. I've learnt this today. But I feel they should.
So today has been an exercise in composure, evaluation and delivery.
Its been a lesson in humility also, but another observation is that my persona encourages the perception that my quietness is a weakness. It's more misconceptuon I think because it's more a skill. It's an unusual problem to have I think but then again that's what I might want to believe...
Anyway, I think a good dinner is in order...not like my lunch(pictured)