Men and woman can be so stupid. Woman's relentless investigation and search for the perfect man can lead to such pathetic circumstances that make me cringe. The same can be said about men, often just as stupid. I wonder if it's the intense desire to meet expectations, invariably set by themselves, coupled with natural instinct and possibly society that lead to some of the most insatiably-crazy- nuts, often seemly pointless relationships. 

Take for instance the scenario where domestic violence plays apart - the most unfortunate but arguably, a choice taken both to impart and receive(albeit willing to adapt) such violence and thus complete a crazy system which should never exist in a relationship. Take another example where the one partner basically feeds off the other and looks to the other(and depends almost entirely) for emotional support, choices & decisions etc...take that scenario which is fairly common and apply it to when, because of this dependence, certain liberties are taken by the one providing all the previous mentioned support, to emit a certain amount of control(taking advantage of the opposite partners vulnerability in needing dependence), such as seeing the right to perform certain activities such as things that treat the dependent partner in a certain way - one way would be in a derogative manner perhaps, another in a very despotic manner, where the right of choice lies exclusively with the more powerful partner(the one given choice to make choices) - but where certain individual rights are not granted. In a way, I sense that such a relationship just like a domestic violence case, would be the fault of both partners(but fear plays a part too). But the crazy thing really is and I don't seem to be able to wrap my head around it is, how they deem it OK(because some really think it's fine) and a necessary thing for the relationship, when clearly for me, the dilution or giving up ones rights, emotionally or otherwise is not a measure of a healthy any relationship.

What drives me nuts is how people actually depend and think they cant function or survive without someone else's input. I think it's a two sided thing. If you are willing to run a marathon, siting and watching marathons on TV will not help when you need to actually stand up and run a marathon. Like wise when one needs to live and make decisions but when the opportunity to live and make such decisions - you can't do it. Its dependence. Its silly. it's really stupid. Rather, it's stupid in the above situations - dependence is great if you think you'll never need to do anything by yourself...then you can depend until kingdom comes. 

I end my sincere ignorance with this:

Don't give your life to someone else. You will probably regret it.

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